What fake steamship stories can tell us about personal development

For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong.
– H. L. Mencken

Steam ship

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There is an amusing and inspiring steamship story that is often told in trainings or workshops, it goes something like this.

In the days of the old steamships a passenger liner broke down just before the entrance to New York harbour.

The ship was helpless, there was nothing the ship’s engineer or crew could do. The liner lay dead in the water unable to make any headway.

The captain radioed the harbour asking them to send their most skilful engineer to solve the problem.

The engineer rode a pilot-boat to the crippled liner, where the captain showed him to the engine room.

To the captain’s surprise the engineer just wandered about. He walked around the engine room, putting his hand on the miles of piping and his ear to junctions and valves. He looked into the boilers and over the towering engine.

By now the captain was beginning to get impatient. “When is this man actually going to DO something?” he thought.

After half an hour of wandering around the engineer just scratched his chin, nodded to himself and asked for a hammer.

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20 Ways To Squeeze Tapping Into Your Daily Life

“I haven’t got enough time to tap!”

Busy schedule

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Like everything else, tapping takes time. If you have a busy life it can feel as if there isn’t enough time to fit tapping in.

While there may not be time for intensive sessions of EFT in daily life, you can squeeze in soothing rounds of tapping into the many small gaps in your daily schedule.

Some of these tapping opportunities can be in the comfort of your own home, some of them are out and about.
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EFT Café – June 2015 – Intentional Energy Processes


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Intentional Energy Processes (IEP) are a new set of tapping tools created by Steve Wells of www.eftdownunder.com. These processes are designed to help us easily let go of unwanted emotional baggage and to align with our deeper intentions.

In standard EFT we work to dismantle limiting beliefs or unpleasant emotional reactions. In IEP the focus is not on the belief, or emotion, itself but on our tendency to become emotionally attached to what we think and feel.

The IEP processes help us let go of those attachments quickly and easily so that we can move forward in the direction we want to go. Not only can we let go of those blocks we can use our intentions as a clever way of uncovering our blocks so they can be released.

IEP is a new and powerful way of moving forward in the world through a simple tapping process. In the June EFT Café (the last before the summer break) Andy Hunt will demonstrate these processes and show you how you can use them to move forward in your life.

This EFT Café is on Wednesday June 10th from 7pm to 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle.

EFT Café – May 2015 – Letting Go Of Unnecessary Suffering

Image courtesy of Randy Heinitz

Image courtesy of Randy Heinitz

Life can be very challenging. All sorts of things happen that we don’t want and can’t control.

Spending a lot of your mental energy wanting the things we don’t want to be different, or wanting to control things that can’t be controlled causes us a lot of pointless suffering.

In this month’s EFT Café, Andy Hunt will be exploring the Releasing process developed by Dr Pat Carrington (creator of the Choices Method).

The Releasing Process allows us to let go of the need to change the unchangeable or control the uncontrollable. Using it and tapping we can be more accepting of the way things are and to have more energy available to change what we can change.

This EFT Café is on Wednesday May 13th from 7pm to 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle.

The Enfolding – A Folk Tale Of Wounding And Healing

One of the problems of describing therapeutic techniques is that they can seem dry and remote. It occurred to me that writing a folk tale would be a good way to talk about the Identity Healing process in a way that spoke to the metaphorical part of ourselves that delights in a story. This tale is one way of telling you about it without talking about it. I hope you enjoy the story and see its potential. – Andy

Holding hands

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In a land far away and long ago there lies a village remote and beautiful.

A scattering of rough stone houses and tangled gardens surrounded by high hills and deep forest.

The villagers lived the simple lives of villagers everywhere.

They worked, slept, laughed, cried, were born and gave birth, grew up, grew old and died in all the ancient and familiar rhythms of the world.

To their occasional visitors they looked the same as villagers everywhere and anywhere.

To those visitors who stayed a while they seemed happier than villagers ought to be.

In spite of the hard work in the daily and yearly struggle for survival these villagers had found a way to be contented with themselves.

The villagers had an easiness of being. A deep contentment with themselves and the world. And although they had all the familiar vexations in their lives, they lived them to the full without struggle.

Children growing here suffered all the usual knocks and blows of life.

If you saw such a moment in a child’s life here you would see all the things you would expect to see anywhere. The shock, hurt, anger or fear would run through their bodies and over their faces.

What you wouldn’t see, what you couldn’t see, if you were not from this village, is the secret way each child protected themselves from their pain.

If you could see it you might doubt your eyes.

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How One Word Can Make Problems Easier To Deal With

This and that

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Would you rather have your problems right in your face or at a more manageable distance?

Most people would prefer to have room to breathe and think about their difficulties.

When we think, or talk, about the challenges in our lives we tend to focus on the story of the problem. We get sucked in to the difficulty caught in the swirl of thoughts and feelings about the problem.

But there are two words that can make the difference between being gripped by our problem or being able to hold it at arm’s length.

These words are so familiar that you probably never even notice them.

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One Word Tapping – Minimalist EFT

Image courtesy of Chris Haldeman

Image courtesy of Chris Haldeman

One of the problems introducing people to EFT is that after learning the tapping they don’t use it on a regular basis because they can’t figure out how to construct tapping statements.

They don’t know what areas of the stressful situation to focus on and what words to use in their tapping statements.

At the Spring ChangeCamp 2015 I ran an introductory workshop for EFT. I decided to use the opportunity to try out a minimalist approach to tapping to see if it would be possible to have a simple tapping process that beginners would use.

One of the participants said they would be willing to help with the demonstration.

I asked her to think of her stressful situation and give it an emotional intensity score from 0 – 10. She said it was a 9 out of 10.

Then I asked her to describe the situation in just one word.

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