EFT Café – 14th September 2016 – Loosening Limiting Beliefs With EFT

Loosen Limiting Beliefs

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Limiting beliefs are one of the best ways of staying stuck. They limit our ability to see possibilities and our ability to take action to achieve our goals.

They are also remarkably resilient.

Like weeds they grow and take root. Once established they can be very hard to remove.

Using EFT/Tapping we can tap on the limiting belief itself or work our way back to the original events where the limiting beliefs were formed.

But there are other ways of loosening limiting beliefs so they are easier to remove.

In this month’s EFT Café Andy Hunt will show you how to use some of the linguistic techniques of NLP combined with tapping to loosen and remove some of those stubborn limiting beliefs.

Find out how to soften beliefs with tapping and language on Wednesday 14th September, 2016 in St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne, from 7pm to 9pm.

How your past can be running your present (and what to do about it)

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EFT/Tapping is a wonderful self-help tool. You can use it to soothe difficult emotions and ease painful memories.

It’s so good, you imagine that if you just tapped on the symptoms of your problem, relief would be quick to follow.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t seem to work that way.

A quick search on the internet will find a multitude of tapping scripts or tap-along videos for your problem. However, while tapping along can soothe the distress at the time, those old feelings can come back later.

It’s as if tapping on the symptoms is like hacking away at the leaves of a tree. If the trunk of the tree is untouched the leaves can grow back with ease. If we don’t work on the trunk and the roots then we could make slow progress.

Let’s imagine someone called Annie.

Annie is now in her thirties and has had the uneasy feeling that she is not wanted for as long as she can remember.

Although she is in a long-term relationship with a loving partner, she often imagines that she is about to lose him to someone who is ‘better’ than she is. In spite of his obvious love for her, she finds it hard to accept that he does love her and that it will last.

She strives to conceal her reservations and be pleasing to him. She puts him first to ensure she keeps his affections.

But, even when things are going well, she feels a deep-seated unease about her relationship and how long it will last.

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A Simple Tapping Technique To Dissolve Old Shoulds

Tapping Shoulds

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Should:
Used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticising someone’s actions

Are you shoulding on yourself?

Are you telling yourself all day, every day, what you should be doing (and feeling bad about what you haven’t done)?

Sometimes we have so many ‘shoulds’ it’s difficult to know what we want.

Have you noticed that even though ‘shoulds’ are supposed to be motivating, what you should do often doesn’t get done!

As the definition says a should is a rule you ‘should’ live up to, a demand you ‘should’ meet, an expectation of how you ‘should’ behave.

  • I should lose weight
  • I should be more assertive
  • I should be more patient
  • I should …

Shoulds are often intended to be motivating, to help us do what we want or what is best for us. In theory our ‘shoulds’ should help us get things done

Unfortunately they don’t usually work that way.

Three ways shoulds don’t work

On the face of it ‘shoulds’ should work, but there are three ways in which they backfire:
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EFT Café – 8th June 2016 – Tapping Into The Power Of Questions

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Image courtesy of Stefan Baudy

Lots of people use affirmations to try to get from where they are now to where they want to be.

When you make an affirmation you ‘pretend’ to already have what you want, in the hope that if you imagine hard enough and long enough that you already have it your unconscious mind will somehow make it happen.

But there’s a problem with affirmations.

However much you want what you are affirming and can imagine having it, part of you knows it’s not true and resists the affirmation.

There is an easier way to point your mind to what you want, a way that doesn’t generate resistance, thrives on possibities and helps prepare you to change.

So:

  • How can you bypass resistance?
  • How can you generate possibilities?
  • How can you prepare for change?

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EFT Café – 11th May – How To Stop Shoulding On Yourself

Should:
Used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone’s actions

Stop shoulding on yourself

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Are you shoulding on yourself?

Are you telling yourself all day, every day, what you should be doing (and feeling bad about what you haven’t done?

Sometimes we have so many ‘shoulds’ it’s difficult to know what we want.

You may also have noticed that even though ‘shoulds’ are supposed to be motivating, what you should do often doesn’t get done!

In this month’s EFT Café Andy Hunt will demonstrate a simple method to help find and dissolve some of those ‘shoulds’ that are holding you back.

This EFT Café is on Wednesday 11th May, 2016 from 7pm to 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne and costs just £10.

How can the people who annoy you help you get more from your tapping?

Tapping and Projection

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You may have noticed that people can be very annoying, they can do and say things that upset and disturb us.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could reduce that level of annoyance and, as a free bonus, improve our own self-acceptance?

Thanks to Carl Jung and some tapping we can do just that.

Jung suggested (that in spite of all appearances) that which annoys us doesn’t reside in the other person it resides in ourselves.

The other person isn’t doing something intrinsically annoying, we are annoying ourselves at what they are doing.

Of shadows and shoulds

He proposed that the ‘something annoying’ that people are doing illuminates parts of our disowned self, our ‘Shadow’, the parts of ourselves that we can not accept or even acknowledge.

As we grow up we adopt the values and ‘rules’ of our family of origin. These rules (our shoulds) told us what was, or was not, acceptable and how we should behave. As children we absorbed and internalised those rules and expectations. The urge to break those rules had to be suppressed to please and appease those who looked after us.

Now, as adults, thoughts or impulses to ‘break’ those internalised rules are uncomfortable to us, they go against our family and cultural programming. Read more »

EFT Café – 13th April 2016 – Undoing The Distress Of Projection Using EFT

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Image courtesy of Nina Matthews Photography

All around us people are being annoying, they do and say things that upset and disturb us.

Carl Jung suggested that, in spite of appearances, that which annoys us doesn’t reside the other person it resides in ourselves.

He suggested that the people that annoy us represent for us parts of our disowned self, our Shadow, the parts of ourselves that we dare not acknowledge or accept.

To protect ourselves we project those unwelcome aspects of ourselves onto others. ‘They’ are the ones who are rude, loud, critical, etc. If we notice those qualities in them we don’t have to pay attention to our own inclinations to be rude, loud, critical, etc.

Unfortunately being annoyed or upset is uncomfortable for us and there are so many people and so many opportunities for us to project and be distressed. What would it be like if we could undo the triggers that cause the distress and allow us to accept more of ourselves.

In this month’s EFT Café , Andy Hunt will demonstrate how to combine the concept of projection with tapping to lower our annoyance with others and to start to accept parts of our Shadow.

This EFT Café is on Wednesday 13th April, 2016 from 7pm to 9pm at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Gosforth, Newcastle upon Tyne and costs just £10.