Tapping for more self-acceptance when you don’t measure up

Imagine a perfect world. A world where you are the ideal person just as you are. You are exactly the right age, height and weight. You have the perfect bank balance, energy levels and personality. Not only that, everyone around you is just right as well. Do you live in that world? No, I didn’t […] Read more »

EFT Café – September 2015 – A Simple Approach To More Self Acceptance

Most of us are hard on ourselves. We can find fault in who we are, how we look, what we think, say and do. If there is a way to judge ourselves we can usually find it. Of course, if you are judging yourself you are not accepting yourself. Since self-acceptance is an important part […] Read more »

What fake steamship stories can tell us about personal development

For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong. – H. L. Mencken There is an amusing and inspiring steamship story that is often told in trainings or workshops, it goes something like this. In the days of the old steamships a passenger liner broke down just before the entrance […] Read more »

The Enfolding – A Folk Tale Of Wounding And Healing

One of the problems of describing therapeutic techniques is that they can seem dry and remote. It occurred to me that writing a folk tale would be a good way to talk about the Identity Healing process in a way that spoke to the metaphorical part of ourselves that delights in a story. This tale […] Read more »

Identity Healing – Are Your Younger Selves Suffering?

If you look at your passport or your driving license you can see your name and your photo. Even if the photo is bad you can tell that it is you. You appear to be just one person. But is that true? On the outside you may project an image of calm, capability, or one […] Read more »

How to use EFT to get beyond “I’m right and you’re wrong”

When I was a teenager I always wanted to be right and for everyone to know that I was right. I would argue my point of view ‘seven ways till Sunday’ to prove that I was right and even if it didn’t start as an argument it frequently became one. Now when I look back […] Read more »