Lots of people are hard on themselves. Some people are very hard on themselves. However hard you are on yourself it is not fun. Being shouted at on the inside of your head by a Sergeant Major who is telling you how useless you are can be very stressful. Very few people enjoy the treatment, [...] Read more »
Greater Self-Acceptance In 3 Parts
Many people struggle to accept themselves, some people even hate themselves. In their eyes they don’t have a problem, they are the problem. In my work with these people I work with three aspects of self-hate. Inner critics Unhelpful identity beliefs Internal identity conflicts The aim of this work is to retrain or retire inner [...] Read more »
What is the difference between resignation and acceptance?
Resignation and acceptance are two ways of dealing with difficult circumstances. Resignation: Something bad has happened and there is nothing I can do … sigh …. Acceptance: Something has happened (which I don’t like) and what can I do next? Even though they are very different, many people (especially those prone to resignation), think they [...] Read more »
EFT Café – Nov 14th – Developing Acceptance With EFT
We have a problem. Life is what it is and does what it does, but we think it should be different. That gap between the facts of our lives and how we think it should be causes a lot of friction and suffering as the discrepancies rub up against us. There are two basic approaches [...] Read more »
Inclusive Tapping: Acceptance Leads To Change
“What we resist persists” - Carl Jung “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” - Carl Rogers One of the aims of EFT is to help people accept themselves and how they feel. The set-up statement (this is my version) “Even though I have this [...] Read more »
Are You Hanging On To Old Wounds?
A man walks into a bar with an arrow sticking out of his chest. He walks up to the astonished barman and asks for a beer. The barman stares in disbelief at the arrow poking out through an old check shirt encrusted with dried blood. He asks: “What the hell happened to you?!” The man, [...] Read more »
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