What fake steamship stories can tell us about personal development

For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong. – H. L. Mencken There is an amusing and inspiring steamship story that is often told in trainings or workshops, it goes something like this. In the days of the old steamships a passenger liner broke down just before the entrance […] Read more »

The Enfolding – A Folk Tale Of Wounding And Healing

One of the problems of describing therapeutic techniques is that they can seem dry and remote. It occurred to me that writing a folk tale would be a good way to talk about the Identity Healing process in a way that spoke to the metaphorical part of ourselves that delights in a story. This tale […] Read more »

Identity Healing – Are Your Younger Selves Suffering?

If you look at your passport or your driving license you can see your name and your photo. Even if the photo is bad you can tell that it is you. You appear to be just one person. But is that true? On the outside you may project an image of calm, capability, or one […] Read more »

How to use EFT to get beyond “I’m right and you’re wrong”

When I was a teenager I always wanted to be right and for everyone to know that I was right. I would argue my point of view ‘seven ways till Sunday’ to prove that I was right and even if it didn’t start as an argument it frequently became one. Now when I look back […] Read more »

Training – Special Offer Just For ‘Tappers’ Who Want To Heal The ‘Inner Child’

As you may know I’ve been developing a collection of processes I call Identity Healing since 2010 as a way of working with entrenched patterns of emotion and behaviour that are often installed during childhood. These patterns are like younger versions of ourselves that come to the fore in stressful situations. If you’ve been in […] Read more »

Compassionate EFT

In every painful situation there are two sorts of suffering. The pain of the circumstances and our resistance to the situation (including our lack of compassion to ourselves). The pain of the situation is easy to understand. Our grief, disappointment, anger, guilt, shame and all those other challenging emotions are easy to see and feel. […] Read more »