“The greatest sickness known to man or woman is called self-esteem. If you have self-esteem, then you’re sick, sick, sick, because you say: I’m okay because I do well and because people love me, so when I do poorly, which I’m a fallible human and will, and people hate me because they may jealously hate [...] Read more »
Only 4 Days To Go To The Autumn ChangeCamp
There are just four days to go before the 2011 Autumn ChangeCamp in Newcastle. Presentations As usual there is a great line up of presentations and presenters on all areas of the psychology of change. Mini workshops on Mindfulness, EFT, Metaphors, The Vision Quest to name just a few. Here’s the full list: Introduction to [...] Read more »
Self-Hate Speech And How To Stop It
Hate speech laws in the United Kingdom are found in several statutes. Expressions of hatred toward someone on account of that person’s colour, race, nationality (including citizenship), ethnic or national origin, religion, or sexual orientation is forbidden. Any communication which is threatening, abusive or insulting, and is intended to harass, alarm, or distress someone is [...] Read more »
The Futility Of Reassurance
Have you ever overheard, or been in, a conversation like this? “Is there something wrong with me?” “No, not at all.” “Are you sure?” “Yes of course.” “I don’t feel that I’m a good person.” “You are a great person! Funny, generous and thoughtful.” “I don’t think I’m like that very often. I’m not a [...] Read more »
Leslie's Story – "I am second best"
Part of my work with people involves helping them free themselves from old identities, ideas and feelings about themselves that are no longer useful. This extract from a client session describes the Identity Relief process that I use as part of that work. I have been working with Leslie (not her real name) for a [...] Read more »
