EFT

Changing your life one step at a time

The Gulliver Club is an opportunity for anyone who has learnt EFT to come together in a supportive environment to practice their EFT skills. This is a place to do just that in a warm, friendly setting in which we use EFT to undo old hurts, put down the frustrations of the week and prepare for the next week and a better life

This is for people who want to use EFT but are not sure how. It all looked so simple in the course but when it comes to everyday life you don’t know what to say and where to start. Not only will you get to practice EFT you will learn some approaches that you can easily use at home on your own. Simple worksheets will guide you all the way.

It’s all right not to be an expert here, the exercises will be practised in the comfort of your own mind. Andy Hunt, an experienced EFT Practitioner and Trainer, will guide the group through a number of tapping exercises. It’s perfectly all right to sit quietly and work on your own stuff without saying a word to anyone – this isn’t the Jeremy Kyle Show or Oprah, no-one is going to have to confess anything to anyone.

If you know EFT then you will have heard about the Personal Peace Procedure, Gary Craig’s recommended approach to improving your life by neutralising unpleasant old memories one at a time. In this group you will have the chance to work on your personal peace procedure or join in with the specific exercises as you see fit. One of the benefits of EFT is that you can use tapping along with someone else’s issues and get relief on your own using Borrowing Benefits.

What do you need to attend the Gulliver Club?

Only a working knowledge of  basic EFT and a willingness to feel better.

Why ‘The Gulliver Club’?

If you remember in the story Gulliver’s Travels by Jonathan Swift, Gulliver is shipwrecked on the island of Lilliput and awakes to find himself tide down by a network of fine threads, or so he thinks, in fact the Lilliputians have tried to secure the giant with their heaviest cables and ropes. To Gulliver each rope is just like a cotton thread but together they hold him down and keep him stuck in place. We are in the same position, held in place by thousands of small threads of memory, beliefs and feelings. Each one of them can be changed with EFT, the Gulliver Club is an opportunity to start cutting those threads that hold us down.

The Gulliver Club is not a substitute for one to one therapy and is not a suitable place for dealing with serious mental health issues. It is suitable for the vast majority of people who want to feel more at ease with themselves.

How does it work?

At the beginning of each session we spend a few minutes tapping away the emotional stuff we’ve brought with us to the occasion, perhaps we’ve had an argument with our boss or spouse, experienced a disappointment or setback and we are carrying that feeling with us.

Then we tap away any charge on an incident that may have happened in the gap between your last session and this one. Or you can work on one of your Personal Peace Procedure memories.

Next we work on a specific Personal Peace Procedure memory or a current issue of your choice.

Then we tap on any upcoming events that may be causing you anxiety – such as an interview, medical appointment, etc.

Finally we do some EFT to feel confident in ourselves and to look forward to the week ahead.

We end with tea and biscuits.

You don’t need to commit to more than one session to take advantage of the Gulliver Club, you can just attend when you feel the need.

What does it cost?

The cost for the one and a half hour session is just £10.

Practicalities

The first Gulliver Club meeting is next Wednesday March 10th at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Regent Ave, Gosforth from 7pm-9pm as part of the EFT Cafe. Thereafter it will be on the 1st and 3rd Thursday of the month.

How to use EFT to make those resolutions last longer than the 31st of January.

Have you ever had the same resolution year after year that only ever makes it to February?

Have you ever had a project that you really would like to complete to find that you couldn’t even start?

Have you ever had a project that you did start only to find that somehow it all grinds to a halt?

We often have things we want to do, goals we would like to achieve but somehow we get stuck. We may try our hardest but we find ourselves sabotaging our efforts or ‘driving with one foot on the brake’.

If this has ever happened to you then you will appreciate how frustrating or disheartening it can be.

In this month’s EFT Café Andy Hunt will guide thorough ‘The Ultimate Truth Statement’ process designed by EFT Master and Coach Lindsay Kenny. This process uses EFT to uncover and resolve the blocks that are getting in the way of achieving those goals.

The EFT Café is on Wednesday 13th January between 7pm and 9pm in the Coleman Teaching Centre at St Oswald’s Hospice. The cost is just £10.

Note: You will need some experience of EFT to attend.

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Last year I wrote a couple of articles – New Year’s Clarifications and Sorting the wheat from the chaff -  about clarifying values. What values are, why they are important and why it might be useful to work on them.

Here’s a reminder of why understanding and aligning our values is so important.

Because they are associated with worth, meaning and desire, values are a primary source of motivation in people’s lives. When peoples values are met or matched, they feel a sense of satisfaction, harmony or rapport. When  their values are not met, people often feel dissatisfied, incongruent or violated

Robert Dilts

Those articles described my first attempts to work with values in a systematic way. Since I wrote them  I have been lucky enough to attend a Values Intensive workshop with Steve Wells.  That workshop went way beyond the processes I suggested in those articles. Not only did we elicit our values, we resolved conflicts within and between them in a variety of ways using EFT.

I enjoyed and benefited so much from that workshop that I have have decided to run a course based on that event here on Tyneside.

Our values govern our behaviour and we are not usually aware of them. They play out in our behaviour or goals but are seldom examined. Lining up with our values is a great way to end the struggles with ourselves.

So ,if you wondered why you do the things you do, or find yourself pulled in different directions when you want to do some things. Now is a chance to find out why and, more importantly, how to do something about it.

The Aligning Your Values Workshop will help you find out what’s important to you, then show you how your values align and conflict and then how to change them. Clarifying your values is a hugely important step in clearing up your internal clutter, lining yourself up with what is important, and enjoying a purposeful life.

The two day workshop is split into 4 parts.

Part 1 – Identifying what is important to you

Part 2 – Resolving conflicts within values

Part 3 – Resolving conflicts between values

Part 4 – Lessening the power of those values or states we avoid

The workshop will be run at the Angel View Inn, Gateshead on Saturday February 6th & Sunday February 7th 2010.

Book now on the Aligning Your Values Workshop page or email andy@practicalwellbeing.co.uk for an application form or more information.

Note: You need to know some EFT to attend this workshop.

Just to let you know that the December Beginner’s EFT has been cancelled.

The Beginner’s EFT format is being revamped and will be re-launched in the New Year. So if you want to find out about EFT and do St Oswald’s Hospice a favour at the same time stay tuned.

For a variety of reasons I’ve had to reschedule the EFT Level 1 Training that was to have been this Saturday 31st October. This training will now be on Saturday December 5th at St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre

It’s still a bargain at £60 for a full day’s training.

EFT Cafe: Three sessions of working with your values

This summer I was lucky enough to attend a Values Intensive workshop with Steve Wells, psychologist and EFT expert in London. It was one of the best trainings I’ve ever been on: powerful, humane and very funny.*

The subject of the training was using EFT to work with our values. Values are the feelings or states that are important to us: those that we want to seek or to avoid.

‘Seek values’ might be love, freedom, challenge, doing good in the world. ‘Avoid values’ might include: conflict, failure, being judged. They are powerful drivers of behaviour, a lot of what we do or strive for is to meet these values.

There are many different values and combinations of values and we all have our own unique mix.

The problem with our values is that for the most part we didn’t consciously choose them. Most of our values are the result of our early experience, they were picked up along the way from our experiences and the values of other people who were important to us.

They may not serve us well in our current lives, some may be helpful, some not. For example: if two of your important values are challenge and safety you may have a great deal of difficulty taking up challenges, even if you want to, even if you know you should. The two values will conflict,  making taking action a very stressful process.

These values and the conflicts between them are often below concious awareness and are probably responsible for most procrastination, self-sabotage and indecision.

Fortunately there is something we can do with these values – we can tap on them. Using EFT we can:

• Get clear about our values
• Resolve conflicts within values
• Resolve conflicts between values

The next three meetings of the EFT Café will be a shortened version of the Values Intensive course. These sessions will focus on:

1. Finding out what’s important: Identifying the important values that drive our behaviour for good or ill.
2. Resolving conflicts within values: Releasing the ’stoppers’ that lurk within our values and stop you getting the feelings you want. This will let you feel the feelings you really want to feel.
3. Resolving conflicts between values: Reducing internal civil war to gain a deeper clarity and peace of mind so that you can make consistently better choices.

When you find out and align on your true values you will be able to choose what is deeply right for you and become someone who congruently walks their talk.

These special sessions of the EFT Café  are at 7pm on Wednesday October 14th, Wednesday November 11th and Wednesday December 9th. The cost is just £10 each.

IMPORTANT:  You will need to know how to do EFT and you will also need to attend the first session to attend the other two. You won’t be able to join the later sessions. Normal solo-sessions will be resumed in the new year.

*If you ever have the chance to attend a Steve Wells’ workshop I heartily recommend it.

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On Saturday 31st October I will be running an EFT Level 1 training in St Oswald’s Hospice Teaching Centre, Newcastle. This is the introductory level of EFT training and equips you with the skills to use EFT to work on your own issues and those of your family and friends.

Do you often feel anxious or stressed?
Sometimes anxiety or other negative emotions can really interfere with your life stopping you from doing the kinds of things you’d really like to. After this course you’ll have a simple method for substantially reducing the negative emotions in your life and giving you much more freedom

Are you a hostage to the past?
Are you haunted by the past, bothered by old unpleasant memories. When you finish this course you’ll be able to neutralise old unhelpful memories and break free of the past.

Do you suffer from physical symptoms or pain?
Sometimes physical symptoms, especially pain, can make life quite unpleasant. At the end of this course you will have a way of relieving symptoms and feeling comfortably relaxed.

Having trouble giving up things that are bad for you?
Chocolate, cigarettes, nail biting and other compulsive habits can be very frustrating, sometimes willpower alone is just not enough. After this course you will have a way to reduce or even eliminate those compulsions so that you may not need any willpower to make those changes.

It’s a hands-on training with lots of supervised practice, you’ll soon be using EFT for yourself, and you may be surprised at just how quick, effective and painless it can be for a wide variety of issues. The cost of the full day’s training (plus extensive manual) is just £60

Email andy@practicalwellbeing.co.uk to book a place