The Enfolding – A Folk Tale Of Wounding And Healing

One of the problems of describing therapeutic techniques is that they can seem dry and remote. It occurred to me that writing a folk tale would be a good way to talk about the Identity Healing process in a way that spoke to the metaphorical part of ourselves that delights in a story. This tale […] Read more »

How One Word Can Make Problems Easier To Deal With

Would you rather have your problems right in your face or at a more manageable distance? Most people would prefer to have room to breathe and think about their difficulties. When we think, or talk, about the challenges in our lives we tend to focus on the story of the problem. We get sucked in […] Read more »

Identity Healing – Are Your Younger Selves Suffering?

If you look at your passport or your driving license you can see your name and your photo. Even if the photo is bad you can tell that it is you. You appear to be just one person. But is that true? On the outside you may project an image of calm, capability, or one […] Read more »

Healing Self Blame Through Tapping

If you burnt the toast this morning as you were making breakfast you could say that you blamed yourself for the mistake. It’s not such a bad mistake, you would probably get over it by lunch time. But, what if you always blamed yourself for everything. That would be a very different experience: you might give yourself a […] Read more »

Why am I making no progress?

Some people feel like they are making no progress in their therapy or self-development. Whatever they do, things seem to stay just as bad as before. It can be both discouraging and frustrating, some people even give up trying. To understand one of the reasons for making no progress (and some ideas to help get […] Read more »

Slow Change – An Effective Alternative To Miracle Cures

Tend to the moments, and the years will take care of themselves. – Tibetan proverb Do you want a happier life? Have you a collection of self help books? If so, you have probably seen some of the big claims on the covers of these books. They may say they are: life changing revolutionary transformational. […] Read more »