Why am I making no progress?

Some people feel like they are making no progress in their therapy or self-development. Whatever they do, things seem to stay just as bad as before. It can be both discouraging and frustrating, some people even give up trying. To understand one of the reasons for making no progress (and some ideas to help get […] Read more »

How Our Words Make Us Stuck And What To Do About It

People often feel stuck. Stuck with a problem, not able to change the way that they think, feel or act because they are depressed, or their relationship is broken, or they can’t overcome their resistance. One of the ways we keep ourselves stuck in these problems is the way that we talk to ourselves and […] Read more »

Is Your Inner Critic Making A Mistake?

Lots of people are hard on themselves. Some people are very hard on themselves. However hard you are on yourself it is not fun. Being shouted at on the inside of your head by a Sergeant Major who is telling you how useless you are can be very stressful. Very few people enjoy the treatment, […] Read more »

Relationships: The Four Horsemen Of The Apocalypse

In this short and powerful video John Gottman, , describes the sure-fire attitudes and behaviours that mess up personal relationships. In many years of research about the “masters” and “disasters” of relationships he’s identified four ways not to handle the stresses and strains of being in relationship. Criticism Defensiveness Contempt Stonewalling In the video Dr […] Read more »

Greater Self-Acceptance In 3 Parts

Many people struggle to accept themselves, some people even hate themselves. In their eyes they don’t have a problem, they are the problem. In my work with these people I work with three aspects of self-hate. Inner critics Unhelpful identity beliefs Internal identity conflicts The aim of this work is to retrain or retire inner […] Read more »

Who do you want them to become?

Seth Godin is one of my favourite authors. He is an American business writer, but don’t let that title put you off. He is a fascinating and persuasive combination of marketer, philosopher and humanitarian. In his latest book The Icarus Deception he writes about how culture conspires with our innate programming to stop us from […] Read more »

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