There are many ways to neutralise limiting beliefs quickly and easily with EFT or other techniques.

Unfortunately our limiting beliefs are often unconscious and unquestioned, a part of the fabric of our perceptions, which makes them hard to find.

Other people’s limiting beliefs can be easy to spot because we are on the outside looking in, but our own remain hidden. That’s why there will always be work for good therapists and coaches.

But what are we going to do if there isn’t a therapist or coach available?

Are we doomed to wander ignorant of our own limiting beliefs because we can’t see them?

Fortunately, there is a simple way to bring lots of limiting beliefs into consciousness using just one word.

It’s a simple word, readily available and deeply familiar …

Because

Because is a special word because when it appears in a sentence it is usually followed by a reason.

• I can’t go out tonight because I am washing my hair
• I can’t start a new business now because the economy is on its knees.
• I can’t change jobs because I am too old.

Each time you hear “because” you are going to hear a reason for the statement that comes just before it.

We can use the power of because to bring our “reasons” out into the open.

Before describing how to use because for this, it is worth acknowledging that there are two kinds of reasons that could be uncovered:

Facts are descriptions of reality

I am cold because it is snowing

It is snowing is a description of the environment, people are often cold if it snowing. That’s not a limiting belief that’s a result of our external reality.

Beliefs are descriptions of our ideas about external reality (often confused with facts)

I am alone because nobody wants me

“Nobody wants me” is not a description of reality (even though it may be confused with one). It is a belief, an idea about reality.

The word nobody is a give away. There are more than 6,000,000,000 people on the planet (that’s a lot). It is impossible to know whether one of those six billion people would be interested in them. In a whole lifetime it would not be possible to meet even a tiny fraction of those people to find out. Nevertheless, for this person it may be a convincing idea about reality.

Is a reason a fact or a belief?

Sometimes, it can be difficult to decide if a reason is a fact or a belief. Fortunately there is a simple test: treat it as a belief and work with it. If it is a fact it probably won’t change, if it is a belief it probably will.

So how can we use because to expose our limiting beliefs?

1. Choose a problem

If you are going to uncover limiting beliefs you need a predicament to work with. If limiting beliefs cause difficulties for us which difficulty are we going to investigate.

• I can’t start a new business
• I am alone
• I can’t make enough money
• Our relationship is struggling
• …

So what is going on in your world that you suspect may be a result of limiting beliefs?

2. Harvest all the possible reasons

Write down a sentence that briefly describes the problem followed by the word because

• I can’t start a new business because …
• I am alone because …
• I can’t make enough money because …
• My relationship is struggling because …
• [problem ] because …

Now say your “because” sentence out loud, then write down whatever comes into your head that completes the sentence. Write as fast as you can and without judgement.

Say the “because” sentence again and write down whatever comes into your head this time as fast as you can and without judgements.

Repeat this process as many times as you can, until you run out of sentences, either because you have the feeling that the well has run dry, or you find you are repeating yourself.

Important: It is essential that you put your judging mind to one side for this process. The aim here is to get as many reasons as possible, so don’t evaluate your reasons at this point. Go as quickly as you can – this allows the information to float up from your unconscious without being blocked by the analytical mind.

3. Pick the wheat from the chaff

Now we have a list of reasons we can sort through at our leisure and identify which of the reasons are limiting beliefs and which are just the random chatter of the mind.

Work through your list of because sentences, saying each out loud.

Give the reason a truth score from 0-10 where 0 is false and 10 is true (this is how true it feels, not how true it is logically).

Repeat this process for each of the reasons until you have a list of reasons that have some emotional charge.

Now you have a list of reasons (limiting beliefs) that can be worked on with EFT or whatever belief change method you would like to choose.

How many beliefs can I expect to find?
You could find just one or two beliefs, or you could find 10 or more.

If you do find a lot of limiting beliefs don’t despair, things might not be as bad as they seem.

• At least you know what to work on: This is big a step forward from having a problem and not knowing what to do with it.
• The beliefs you uncover are probably related: This is good news, if you make a dent in a big limiting belief there is a strong chance that the other beliefs will be softened automatically. You might only have to work through a few of them systematically to get big reductions in the others.

However many beliefs you find, all you need to do now is change them!

P.S. Two quick and easy EFT based belief change mechanisms are The Belief Flip and Exception Tapping

This is the time of year in the UK when many self-employed people start to experience that heady mixture of anxiety and procrastination that develops when the January 31st deadline for our tax return looms.

In the past I have procrastinated, sweated and rushed to get everything together and submitted by the deadline date. One year I managed to submit the tax return on the evening of the last day. Ouch!

Happily, I’ve been getting better at it over the years. This year I decided to use the Getting Out Of Your Own Way process to take care of my limiting beliefs and responses to this necessary task. It says a lot about my level of resistance that I resisted taking care of this resistance for so long.

Finally, over the Christmas holiday (I know how to have a good time) I ran through the process and nailed quite a few limiting beliefs and responses about getting my accounts done in good time. I even felt like I wanted to get started right away.

When I got home after the holiday, the feeling of getting started right away seemed to have disappeared. I looked at the bulging file of receipts and bank statements still to be processed sitting in their folder and thought that I really should get down to the business of working my way through them, but did nothing.

Eventually, I became curious about what was happening with my resistance to doing this chore. I decided to do a little experiment.

I put the folder brimming with papers on the table and printed out a copy of the tapping worksheet. The tapping worksheet is a method I use for breaking down a problem into its component triggers to make tapping easier.

Briefly, you name the problematic situation giving it a 0-10 score, then complete sections on what you think about the situation, what you see, hear and feel, what you tell yourself about it and what the situation reminds you of. This breaks down the situation into tap-able aspects. You can read about the tapping worksheet in A Patterdale Terrier’s Guide To Stress Relief and download a copy from the resources section of my website.

I worked through each section of the tapping worksheet and found a couple of negative responses that I had to this task.

The main one was: “I hate this!” (scoring 8 out of 10).

I tapped out the “I hate this” with just a few rounds of EFT. Then I went back to check on all the other parts of the worksheet, every other unhelpful response had disappeared!

I immediately started working on the file and spent the next two hours sorting and checking receipts and bank statements without difficulty.

Did the task that I hated suddenly become fun and enjoyable? Sadly not, it’s still a chore (I’d never be a good accountant) but it’s stopped being a problem or something to avoid.

Is this the magical end of procrastination? I doubt it. I think procrastination and self-sabotage are usually quite a complicated mix of beliefs and responses, but I do think I have uncovered an important part of my task aversion towards this particular chore.

Now I’m going to investigate how many other tasks I’m slow to complete because “I hate them”.

You might like to see if the “I hate X” is stopping you from doing what you need to do.

P.S. I’m still working my way through the various remaining accounting tasks without problem or resistance.

The presentation gives a step by step explanation of the process with examples to help you understand the pattern.

Note: I apologise for the hoarse quality of my voice, it wasn’t a technical problem, I had a cold at the time I recorded it.

You can download a pdf version of The Belief Flip by clicking the link.

You can download Getting Out Of Your Own Way - Preview - Chapters 1-6 mentioned at the end of the presentation can be found by clicking the link.

Getting Out Of Your Own Way, is a straightforward and thorough guide to uncovering and dissolving many of your hidden limiting beliefs and blocks – the ‘Resistance’ – the unconscious saboteurs that stand in the way of your progress.

Who is this book for?

How do you know if you suffer from ‘Resistance’? Here are some common symptoms:

• Difficulty in making a start on a piece of work: Do you find yourself constantly putting back your starting time and never actually getting going? Are you often waiting for the “right moment” to start or for inspiration to strike you?
• Craving diversion: Does the need to tidy your room, do the shopping, surf the internet and so on become irresistible whenever you contemplate getting down to work? Are you easily distracted from your work by friends and social opportunities?
• Ineffective working: Do you spend a lot of time at work but end up with little to show for it?
• Last minute rushing: Is all your work finally done at a breakneck speed the night before the final deadline? Do you often think you have not left yourself time to do things properly?
• Missed deadlines: Do you feel you are always asking for more time and making excuses? Are you losing opportunities and respect because you are always late?
• Nagging guilt:  Is your time off relaxing spoilt by the continual feeling that you ought to be working? Do you often feel you have achieved less than you should have?
• Disappointment and self-reproach:  Do you feel you are letting yourself down by putting things off? Do you think of yourself as lazy? Do you compare yourself unfavourably with others because of your procrastinating?

In this book you can learn simple processes to bring limiting beliefs and blocks into awareness, then use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) based processes to neutralise those blocks so that you get on with what you want to do without procrastinating, dragging your feet, avoiding the work, all the ways in which we get in our own way

The techniques in this book combine EFT and NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) approaches that I have developed in my own personal exploration of what gets in my way when I set out to achieve something.

The techniques are simple and practical. You don’t need any advanced EFT or NLP training to make use of them, but you do need to know how to do EFT (if you have no experience of EFT you will find a brief introduction at the end of this book which will give you an understanding of the basics).

This book is for people who want to discover and change their limiting beliefs. It is suitable as a guidebook for therapists and coaches to help their clients explore what is stopping them, it is also useful for people who want a self-help guide to spotting and eliminating the blocks in their own progress.

Why Did I Write This Book?

I am a recovering procrastinator. I used to be a top class foot dragger. If there were ways for me to avoid doing things I would find them. I was a master at starting projects and then finding a way to have them fizzle out or limp along in a half-hearted manner. When I started my own business this “skill” because a disadvantage. I’ve been experimenting with ways to get out of own way ever since.

This has been a long, slow process. I’ve read many books, listened to a lot of recordings, attended seminars, workshops, NLP and EFT trainings. Out of this stew of influences I started to develop ways of identifying and working with my blocks.

After each success I got a little more room to manuever and things got easier. As a result of several years of experimentation and progress I came up with the Getting Out Of Your Own Way method.

I use this approach for myself on every new project, because I am much more likely to finish what I start, doing the work without excessive stress or any of my old foot-dragging.

Click here: Getting Out Of Your Own Way - Preview - Chapters 1-6 to read the first six chapters free of charge.

To find out more about the book and the various packages available visit  Getting Out Of Your Own Way

I hope you find it useful.

Now that I have completed it I think I will have a long lie down in a darkened room!

I have decided to make my e-book “7 steps to more wellbeing” completely free.

You can now download the book without having to give me any email details or sign up to my newsletter to get it.

If you want to sign up to my occasional (monthly-ish) newsletter, and I’d really like to be able to send it to you,  there is a separate sign-up form just below the box.

I hope you enjoy the book and find it useful.

I’m working on a couple of others now which should be appearing before the end of this year.

“Compound interest arises when interest is added to the principal, so that from that moment on, the interest that has been added also itself earns interest.”

It’s so easy to forget that we have EFT to use as a day-to-day tool to make life a bit easier.

When disaster strikes and we have major upsets or trauma to deal with it’s obvious that we need to deal with it.  Major problems are easy to spot and hard to ignore, with EFT you have an excellent tool for working with these difficulties, but what about the day-to-day stuff?

Many of the minor discomforts and problems that we experience on a day-to-day basis seem too small to bother about, we tend to get on with things and not bother tapping on it.

Most of these incidents aren’t so bad, a little dip in our mood and then we are back on track. A lot of life’s challenges give you repetitive and annoying little jolts of stress or distress that we work through every day.

Let’s imagine that you have a work colleague who has a gift for upsetting you – something in the way they speak or look just gets you annoyed.

If you meet for just a few minutes each day it’s not so bad, you only have to speak to them for a few minutes and then it’s over until tomorrow.

At first glance that doesn’t look too bad, it’s “just one of those things”. But it is not just one of those things it’s just one of many of those things, which added up, over time, can cause you a lot of stress.

Each stressful situation you go through prepares you (in a bad way) for the next one.

We are conditioned beings. What happens in any situation prepares our body-mind for the next time we are in a similar situation. We might get apprehensive or stressed, even when we think about the next time we have to go through that kind of experience again.

Dentist’s waiting rooms are full of people being stressed about something that hasn’t happened yet based on their previous experiences of drilling and filling.

Vicious Circle

This stress response pattern leads to a vicious circle.

• a difficult situation …
• leads to upset and stress …
• leads to apprehension of the next time you are in that situation …
• leads you to be in a less resourceful state when next in the situation …
• leads you to have more upset and distress …
• and so on …

Compound Suffering

You might be able to handle one stressful situation at a time with ease, but if you add them up it doesn’t look so good.

Try this little experiment.

• Get a calendar, mark in difficult, recurring events, such as:
• Problem meeting at work
• Weekly dinner with the in-laws
• A problem customer
• Having to deal with a troublesome neighbour.
• Mark the last time this event happened on the calendar.
• Now mark the next event when it is due
• And the one after that
• And the one after that
• And the one after that
• And so on …

These situations add up, don’t they?

Let’s imagine that your stressful event takes just ten minutes and only happens once a week.

Ten minutes are not so bad. Anyone can survive ten minutes of discomfort, can’t they?

But 52 weeks of ten minutes discomfort adds up to nearly nine hours of distress.

Imagine nine full, uninterrupted, hours of that kind of stress.

If you got that all at once would you do some tapping to relieve it?

It gets worse. It’s not just this one example of repeating stress, we probably have a lot of little stress events in our lives repeating at regular intervals and compounding their stress over time.

Happily there is a way out.

Compound Freedom

Let’s imagine that just 30 minutes of tapping cleared that reaction.

If you did that, then for just a little effort up front, you could have eight and a half hours less distress in a year.

Not only that the less triggered and more resourceful you can be in that situation the more likely it is to go well.

Tapping on the upset as it occurs will probably diminish the stress of each situation as it occurs as you get more and more able to handle it. Over time the stress response is reduced and all the later occurrences of this situation will be easier, leading to much less stress.

With a bit of tapping you can transform the vicious cycle with a virtuous one.

Virtuous Cycle

This cycle starts with the same event but goes in a different direction.

• a difficult situation …
• leads to upset and stress …
• cleared with EFT …
• leads to more confidence about the next time you will be in that situation …
• leads you to be in a more resourceful state when next in the situation …
• leads you to have less upset and distress than before …
• and so on …

That’s much less stress in your life and much more freedom for a small investment of tapping.

Putting it into practice

Is simplicity itself.

• Review the last week.
• Pick a modest (at first) recurring stressful incident.
• Take care of it with EFT
• Take care of any residual stress the next time it happens
• Rinse and repeat until the stress response is diminished or eliminated.
• Pick another incident and repeat the process

In the time it takes to complain about something that has happened to you, you could take steps to make sure that it doesn’t happen in the same way again or you could allow your stress levels to increase again.

What’s the first change you could make to invest in your happiness?

Many people have to do lists that are packed with things they should do that get done very reluctantly or don’t get done at all

If you should do something it implies an expectation that others want you to do something.

As children our parents, teachers and others tell us what we should do and we learn what is important to the people who are telling us what to do. Because we are kids we usually go along with these shoulds with varying degrees of resistance.

Most people don’t like being told what to do, ask any 2 year old.  As children we often put up what resistance we can to the instructions as either a flat refusal, or some kind of foot dragging.

When we grow up and have things that we want to do we can carry the language and experience of ‘should’ into our adult behaviour.

We want to do something and we tell ourselves we should do our accounts, mow the lawn, wash up, make that phone call.
That’s when the trouble starts.

Whenever we put a should in front of something we want to do then we set ourselves up to resist we want to complete the task.

You might like to try this experiment.

Pick an item from your to do list that has been un-done for a while – for example “I should tidy the garage”

Say out loud “I should … “ , giving it a score from 0 to 10 on how true it is where 0 is completely false and 10 is completely true.

Now, say out loud “I don’t want to …”, giving that a score from 0 to 10.

Now, say out loud “I want to …”, give that a score from 0 to 10.

For many people a strong “I should …” score has a strong element of  “I don’t want to …” added to it.

If you found this to be the case, congratulations you just uncovered an internal conflict that might have something to do with you not being able to complete the task. Unconscious resistance will make you avoid doing the task or have you drag your feet so that it takes far longer than it needs to.

Having found this conflict it is suprisingly easy to dissolve with this simple tapping routine.

In this process we tap on the should directly, the expectation from others that this is the right thing to do, the resistance to doing it and finally about what you really want to do in this circumstance.

Instructions for the “Should do … ” tapping
Using “I should clear out the garage” as an example.

1. Test how strong the should is
2. Even though I should clear out the garage, I accept myself and how I feel x 3
3. EB – I should clear out the garage
4. SE – They want me to clear out the garage
5. UE – I don’t want to clear out the garage
6. UN – What do I want to do?
   Repeat this reminder set
7. CH – I should clear out the garage
8. CB – They want me to clear out the garage
9. UA – I don’t want to clear out the garage
10. TH – What do I want to do?
11. Test how strong the should is now.
12. Pay attention if one of these phrases provokes a reaction and be prepared to tap on whatever reaction, memories or thoughts that ar triggered.

If there is still a charge on the should, repeat the process.

When the should has been dissolved, test “I want to …” if the should was in line with your values this will test strong, if the should was coming from the outside and not in line with your values then this will test low and you need to decide what you want to do.

Pick an example from your to do list and try this process out.

In my and others experience resolving the should will make it a lot easier to do what needs to be done or lets you know what is important to you.

If you apply this process regularly to you to-do list items you should   find it much easier to get out of your own way.

On Saturday, November 19th, in Newcastle upon Tyne,  I am running a one-day workshop “Getting Out Of Your Own Way” where I will be teaching a complete process for resolving unconcious blocks and limiting beliefs about any project or goal.

Each of these thoughts has an effect on us. Many thoughts trigger emotional states in us for good or ill

Thoughts like this probably make us feel good:

• "that chocolate cake looks good"
• "I love you too sweetie"
• I think this is a great song

Thoughts like these probably make us feel bad:

• "I am so fat!"
• "She makes me so angry"
• "How could I be so stupid"

Sometimes we are stuck to our ideas of ourselves and what is going on. If these ideas or thoughts are unhelpful this identification with them can be very stressful because we believe that what we are thinking is true. The thought triggers an emotional response whether it is appropriate or not. Our mistake is that we forget that the thought is just a thought about something, not the something itself. It's as if we see a sign saying "Beware of the bull" and become afraid even though the field is quite empty.

A common response to having negative thoughts can be to try to add positive thoughts to the mix as an attempt to counteract or attack those negative thoughts.

This is like putting another gladiator in the ring and expecting the fighting to stop.

What we don't do, or can't do, is step out of the mental arena and let the thoughts go.

Fortunately, there are ways to ease the power of these thoughts by stepping away from them. One way of doing just that can be found in the book The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris. It is one of several, simple techniques that you can use to step out of unhelpful thinking patterns.

The process is simplicity itself. Let's imagine that you have the thought "I'm no good" going around in your head. When you have this thought it provokes a very stressful and debilitating reaction.

First I would ask you to think the thought: "I am no good" then notice what effect that has on you.

Second I would ask you to think the thought: "I am having the thought that I am no good" then notice what happens when you do that.

Third I would ask you to think the thought: "I am noticing that I am having the thought that I am no good", then notice what happens when you do that.

When they do this, people usually report that this technique puts the original thought "at a distance" to them, and that they are less troubled by it.

Instructions

1. Choose a thought that stresses you.

2. Think that thought and notice what it does to you

3. Then think "I am having the thought … the thought"

4. Then think "I am noticing that I am having the thought … the thought"

This is a really simple process for taking the charge out of negative thinking.

The only challenge is remembering to use it. Here are two approaches that might help:

1. When ever you have an unhelpful thought make a note of it in a journal or piece of paper. At some convenient time of the day, review your notes using the technique for each thought that causes you trouble.

2. When ever you are in difficult or stressful situations ask yourself the question "What am I thinking now?" and make a note of your answers, treating each one with the process.

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When people say "I can" or "I can't" they are telling us the limits of what they think is possible for them in their world.

• I can't speak in public
• I can't fall in love
• I can't say that to my mother
• I can't leave this job
• I can't get out of this relationship

Each can't is a line in the sand which they can't cross.

In the NLP Meta Model "I can't …" belongs to a linguistic class given the very fancy title "modal operators of possibility", which are all about the way we talk about what is possible or impossible for us. The Meta Model gives us a way of challenging the statements beginning with "I can't …" This tapping technique is a combination of EFT and the NLP challenge to an "I can't …".

Let's go back to the line in the sand which the person thinks they can't cross. This line in the sand was probably formed long ago as a rule based on experience, it is probably held at an unconscious level, hidden from view. As far as the person is concerned now, the "I can't …" is self-evident and convincing. This technique is designed to unpack the underlying reasons for the rule so that they can be tapped on. To do this we use part of the NLP Meta Model which is a set of questions designed to uncover the hidden basis for a lot of our unconscious limitations and assumptions.

Like a line in the sand there are two sides to this internal line.

On one side there may be something stopping you from crossing over that line into a desired outcome. At some level you are being held back. Asking the question: "What stops you?" helps bring into awareness whatever it is that is stopping you from moving forward.

On the other side of the line there may be an undesired consequence of stepping over that line. At some level you don't want or fear the consequence of stepping over the line. Asking the question: "What would happen if you did?" helps you bring that undesired consequence into awareness.

This routine consists of a setup statement and tapping through while asking three questions.

Asking these questions allows the thoughts, feelings and memories provoked by the questions to be tapped on once they arise. Sometimes they do not need to be articulated, at other times the answers may include memories and feelings that have to be followed up and tapped out to get a full resolution. Because EFT can work speedily it is not often necessary to go into the details of what is stopping you or what the consequences of doing it would be, just bringing them into awareness allows them to be softened and undone by the tapping.

There is one further question (not part of the Meta Model) that is tapped on: "What if I could …? " This is an invitation to the tapper to take an imaginative leap into a future without this limitation which allows the tapping to work on any "negative" consequences of releasing this limitation.

Example

One of my clients needed to make an important phone call that he had been putting off for quite sometime. He needed to make the call but couldn't.

I asked him to say "I can't make this phone call" out loud and give it a SUDs score from zero to ten. He said it was an eight.

We tapped on the setup statement "Even though I can't make this phone call, I accept myself and how I feel" – three times.

For the first round of tapping I asked him to tap on each of the points using "What stops me from making this phone call?" as the reminder phrase. He did this obviously accessing some thoughts and feelings as he went through the round.

For the second round of tapping I asked him to tap on the points using "What would happen if I did make this phone call?" as the reminder phrase. He did this more easily.

For the third round of tapping I asked him to tap on "What if I could make this phone call?" as the reminder phrase. He did this easily.

I asked him to score the belief "I can't make this phone call" from zero to ten, he said it was now a two.

I asked him about the "What stops me making this phone call?" round of tapping and he told me that he had a kaleidoscope of thoughts, feelings and memories in response to that question. I asked him to do one more round of tapping on "What stops me making this call?" He did so and reported that the "I can't make this phone call" no longer made sense to him.

Advantages of the questioning approach

You will notice that there are no clever verbal reframes or suggestions in this process just tapping + three questions. There are several advantages to using questions in this way.

• It is easier – All you have to do is remember the three questions and tap. You don't need to think of any reframes or other verbal tricks to get the result.
• It is exploratory – Because the questions are inviting you to notice what is going on in yourself it allows the tapping to be guided by your experience, leading to whatever feelings or memories played a part in the formation of these limitations.
• It is respectful – Since this follows your way of thinking about things there is no feeling that the solution is being imposed on you. Since the resolution to the limiting belief comes from your experience and resources it is more likely to be appropriate and last in the long run. The resolution can't be biased by anyone else’s limitations or ideas about what is happening or needed.
• It includes its own mental rehearsal. The addition of the "What if I could …?" question takes the resolution into the future and tries it on for size. Any problems with the solution can be explored and addressed within the process.

Instructions

1. Say out loud the "I can't … " and assess how true it feels on a scale of 0 to 10
2. Tap out setup statement three times – "Even though I can't …, I accept myself and how I feel"
3. Tap out one round of EFT using the reminder phrase "What stops me … ?" *
4. Tap out one round of EFT using the reminder phrase "What would happen if I did … ?" *
5. Tap out one round of EFT using the reminder phrase "What if I could …?"

* It is possible while tapping this round that you may get an idea about specific events or other things that stop you. Bear those in mind while you continue to tap. You can either continue tapping round after round on the question you are working on until these feelings settle or you might break off from the process entirely to deal with a troublesome memory and return to it later.

If memories or feelings that need tapping come up during the tapping round. Take care of those memories and feelings while they are still fresh.

Go back to the original phrase "I can't … ", saying it out loud again to assess its truth.

If there is still a charge. Repeat the four steps again, then check. Repeat this process as many times as necessary to neutralise the charge on that belief.

There may be times in our lives when we could really use some more strength, awareness, joy or some trait that we don't seem to have enough of.

In the first process of this month's NLP Café you will learn the Trait Square, a simple way of accessing more of the qualities you need.

You can adopt more confidence, enthusiasm, determination – whatever quality you would like to have more of in your everyday experience.

In the second section using Time Lines you will have a chance to test drive this new trait into the future, a thorough mental rehearsal, so that it will be available to you whenever you need it.

You don't need much experience of NLP to attend this workshop, all you need is an idea of what attitudes and aptitudes you would like to have more of and a willingness to join in.

The NLP Café is on Wednesday 20th July at 7pm in St Oswald's Hospice, Teaching Centre, Gosforth.

Phone Andy on 0754 700 9116 or email andy@practicalwellbeing.co.uk for more information.

The NLP Café meeting costs just £10 and includes refreshments.

Note: The NLP Cafe is a low cost NLP practice group in Newcastle upon Tyne it is run by myself and Nigel Hetherington of Communicating Excellence. It is open to all regardless of experience or training.

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