The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth.

– Niels Bohr

When we are working with our difficult feelings we may find that our minds are constricted by those feelings.

If we are very sad then we find it hard to imagine how we might be happy. The sadness itself changes our perceptions of the world and what’s possible.

Using standard EFT we tap on negative emotions to bring down the intensity to a more manageable level.

*Even though I feel sad I accept myself and how I feel …* and so on.

This approach works well, but what if we could assist the process and expand the ability of our minds to hold helpful alternatives while we are in the midst of the negative feeling?

The concept of yin-yang and its familiar symbol represent the Chinese understanding of the balancing of opposites.

The outer circle represents “everything”, while the black and white shapes within the circle represent the interaction of yin and yang. The shapes are not completely black or white, just as things in life are not completely black or white, and they cannot exist without each other.

Paradoxical tapping introduces the opposite of the emotion or belief you are working on into the tapping, to open out your experience of possibilities more quickly and powerfully than standard EFT.

Here are some typical statements you might be tapping on using standard EFT:

*I am struggling**I feel sad**Working for myself is difficult*

## Simple Paradoxical Tapping

The simplest way to use paradoxical tapping is to think of the opposite of the feeling / belief state and introduce it into the tapping using the word **and**.

What are **your** opposites for “struggling”, “sad” and “difficult”?

Each of us has our own unique experience and understanding what things mean and what their opposites are.

For example: the opposite of “hard” might be “soft”, or “easy”, or “smooth”, or …

Whatever your opposite for a feeling or situation is it is going to be right for you. As we go through the examples substitute your own opposites for the feelings and beliefs described.

- The opposite of “struggling” might be “thriving”.
- The opposite of “sad” might be “happy”.
- The opposite of “difficult” might be “easy”.

Now we have an opposite how do we introduce it into the tapping phrase?

The simplest approach is to use the word **and** which combines, joins, and unites the words and phrases on either side of it.

In the simplest form of paradoxical tapping we create a standard setup statement and alternate the tapping between the original feeling **and** its opposite.

For example:

*Even though I am struggling, I accept myself and how I feel* x 3

EB: *I am struggling*

SE: *and** I am thriving*

UE: *I am struggling*

UN: *and** I am thriving*

CH: *I am struggling*

CB: *and** I am thriving*

UA: *I am struggling*

TH: **and** I am thriving

Likewise:

*I am sad, and I am happy*

*Working for myself is difficult,*

**and**it is easy.The **and** in these statements join the apparent opposites together.

If you try tapping routines like this you may find that they work well, but often they can be a bit too much of a stretch for the mind to cope with. The second half of the reminder phrase may be greeted with a lot of internal resistance.

## Smoother Paradoxical Tapping

If it is too much of a stretch to go from “I am sad” to “I am happy” in one go then we can make the alternative much easier to introduce by using the following form of words.

Use the standard set-up statement *Even though I am struggling, I accept myself and how I feel* x 3

Then use this form of the paradoxical tapping to introduce the opposite more smoothly.

EB: *I am struggling*

SE: *and** in how many different ways could I be thriving?*

UE: *I am struggling*

UN: *and** in how many different ways could I be thriving?*

CN: *I am struggling*

CB: *and** in how many different ways could I be thriving?*

UA: *I am struggling*

TH: *and** in how many different ways could I be thriving?*

Likewise

*I am sad,***and**in how many different ways could I be happy?*Working for myself is hard,***and**in how many different ways could it be easy?

Let’s unpack this sentence

*… in how many different ways …* This is an invitation to your unconscious mind to start creating alternatives, not just one alternative but many **different** alternatives.

*… could it be [opposite]?* ‘Could’ is a question that invites you to be hypothetical about the possibilities in the future: “Could it rain on Thursday?”, “Could we have pancakes for lunch?” Both are possible, they might happen, they might not, we’re just imagining the possibilities as we answer those questions. Our minds are not under pressure to agree with anything.

Combining the invitation to come up with many hypothetical ways in which the opposite might be true allows the mind to free itself from the clash of opposites and learn ways of making it happen.

Using this form of word makes it significantly easier for the person doing the tapping to ‘let the opposite in’.

There is one simple addition that makes the Paradoxical Tapping even more powerful.

## Powerful Paradoxical Tapping

Add the word **now** to the paradoxical alternatives

*I am struggling,***and**in how many different ways could I be thriving?**Now!***I am sad,***and**in how many different ways could I be happy?**Now!***Working for myself is hard,*The word**and**in how many different ways could it be easy?**Now!***now*invites the mind to bring the hypothetical alternatives that it has been considering (all in the space of a few seconds tapping) into the present moment. This seems to intensify the power of the paradoxical tapping.

You will see that the word **now** appears after the question mark and is emphasised. The word needs to be given a little bit of verbal emphasis and a downward inflextion to indicate it is a command rather than part of the question.

If you are not sure of the difference try saying

*Do it now?*

vs

*Do it now!*

There will be a difference in tone that differentiates the question from the command. Use the command tone for the **now** in the paradoxical tapping.

Using the powerful version of Paradoxical Tapping makes it possible to change feelings quickly, often with just one round of tapping.

**Important: If the feelings you are working on are very intense, paradoxical tapping is best used after any raw intensity of emotions have been soften with standard tapping**

You can find this technique and 11 others in The EFT Collection: 12 Tapping Techniques For Practical Wellbeing

Another nice one Andy…

You are unstoppable! Churning out all these fabulous quality articles at a damn good rate.. I am envious..

and in how many different ways could I be [???]! (any suggestions?) 🙂

Masha

… myself

That will do very nicely 🙂