Who I work with

I work with people who are stuck in their lives or hate themselves.

Are you stuck in your life?

Many people feel stuck in their lives, they want to be happy but they don’t know how.

They:

  • feel anxious much of the time and avoid many things they want to do to keep their anxiety in check.
  • feel stressed at work, or home, or both, not able to hold up under the demands of work or family life.
  • could just be unhappy or maybe even depressed and don’t know why.
  • may have read lots of self help books (and done the exercises), but it hasn’t helped
  • are stuck in a rut and can’t get out of it.
  • feel held back from making progress in ways they don’t understand.
  • may feel lonely even when they are with other people.
  • may be a people pleaser – having to put everyone first and put their own needs to one side.
  • feeling a lot of (irrational) fear in their lives which stops them moving forward.
  • feel bad but put a brave face on it with others.
  • have a very negative mindset.
  • may be unable to get over traumatic experiences.

I help people release those blocks and anxieties so they can do what they need to do to have the life that they want.

Do you hate yourself?

I also work with people who hate themselves and give themselves a hard time; they may judge themselves harshly, feel bad about themselves or spend far too much time having a problem with themselves.

They:

  • might hate, reject, punish and criticise themselves
  • probably treat themselves in a way that they would never treat anybody else.
  • often feel bad about themselves, think that in some way they are not good enough and that there is something wrong with them.
  • might have the idea that whatever they do, it can never be enough to make them OK. They feel they’ll never be good enough.
  • think that if only they improve in some way then they would be good enough, usually the ‘some way’ is some kind of impossible standard.
  • feel bad about themselves when they make mistakes, rather than write it off to experience and learn from it, they take it as further proof that they are defective in some way.
  • write achievements off as flukes or luck when they have successes, and have a very hard time accepting praise for what they have achieved.
  • might feel irresistibly drawn to choose situations and relationships that reinforce their bad opinion of themselves – even if they know it is bad for them.
  • may have had a variety of experiences, possibly traumatic, that have led them to believe that they are somehow lacking or faulty.

I help people let go of all this self criticism, inner conflict and shame so that they can begin to feel more comfortable in their own skin. They can start to see themselves as fallible human beings just like everyone else.

They can start living their life as the person they are meant to be rather than being a chameleon attempting to fit in with everyone else’s needs and trying to get it right. Rather than live behind a mask or as an empty shell they can start to live their authentic life.

Why work with me?

I treat people with acceptance and understanding and meet them as a person not as a problem. As far as I am concerned your experiences, ideas, thoughts and feelings are real, not wrong. I work from where you are now and help you get to where you want to be.

My clients tell me that they see me as straightforward, trustworthy, compassionate and resourceful. They also say that I don’t seem to be uncomfortable with anything they say, or judge them in any way, and that they felt in safe hands.

My work is focused on your outcomes and is time limited. You decide what is important to you and I help you get there as quickly and as comfortably as possible. You decide when you have reached your destination. We work as a collaborative team, you decide what is important to you and I help you get there.

I teach you skills and techniques to look after yourself along your journey.

I have many skills and much experience and specific techniques for working with these issues. You can find out more about how I work here.

I have spent a lot of my adult life getting un-stuck and developing self acceptance, so I’m not a stranger to these issues. There are no techniques that I use or show you that I haven’t used myself to my own benefit. I have used these techniques with many clients who have also benefited.

I am a Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Practitioner and Trainer, a member of the Professional Guild of NLP, a Trainer and Level 3 Practitioner of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).

I am a member of the NLPtCA and carry professional insurance for the work that I do.

Who I don’t work with

I do my best work with the people with the kinds of issues I have described above.

I don’t work with clients with the following issues

  • Drug and alcohol problems
  • Children and adolescents
  • Weight loss issues
  • Smoking cessation
  • Couples or family counselling

Although I don’t work with these kinds of issues I may be able to refer you to another therapist who specialises in these issues.

How to get in touch with me

For more information or to discuss your needs  phone 0754 700 9116