I work with people who give themselves a hard time, judge themselves harshly, feel bad about themselves or spend far too much time having a problem with themselves.
They might hate, reject, punish, criticise themselves and treat themselves in a way that they would never treat anybody else.
They often feel bad about themselves, think that in some way they are not good enough and that there is something wrong with them. They often tell themselves this.
They might have the idea that whatever they do, it can never be enough to make them OK. They feel they’ll never be good enough.
They have an idea that if only they improve in some way then they would be good enough, usually the ‘some way’ is some kind of impossible standard.
When they make mistakes they feel bad about themselves, rather than write it off to experience and learn from it, they take it as further proof that they are defective in some way. In contrast, when they have successes they write those achievements off as flukes or luck, and have a very hard time accepting praise for what they have achieved.
They might feel irresistibly drawn to choose situations and relationships that reinforce their bad opinion of themselves – even if they know it is bad for them.
They may have had a variety of experiences, possibly traumatic, that have led them to believe that they are somehow lacking or faulty.
What can you expect when you work with me?
You can begin to feel more comfortable in your own skin
You can start to have a more realistic and compassionate acceptance of yourself as a human being.
You can soften your critical inner voice and even change it to be encouraging and supportive
You can begin to free yourself from shame and guilt
You can start living your life as the person you are meant to be rather than being a chameleon attempting to fit in with everyone else’s needs and trying to get it right. Rather than live behind a mask or as an empty shell you can start to live your authentic life.
Why would you want to work with me?
I treat people with acceptance and understanding and meet them as a person not as a problem. As far as I am concerned your experiences, ideas, thoughts and feelings are real, not wrong. I work from where you are now and help you get to where you want to be.
My work is focussed on your outcomes and is time limited. You decide what is important to you and I help you get there as quickly and as comfortably as possible. You decide when you have reached your destination. We work as a collaborative team, you decide what is important to you and I help you get there.
I teach you skills and techniques to look after yourself along your journey to self acceptance.
I have many skills and much experience and specific techniques for working with these issues. You can find out more about how I work here.
I’ve been on my own personal journey to self acceptance for all my adult life so I’m not a stranger to these issues. There are no techniques that I use or show you that I haven’t used myself to my own benefit. I have used these techniques with many clients who have also benefited.
I am a Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Practitioner and Trainer, a member of the Professional Guild of NLP, a Trainer and Level 3 Practitioner of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).
I am a member of the NLPtCA and carry professional insurance for the work that I do.
Who I don’t work with
I do my best work with the people with the kinds of issues I have described above.
I don’t work with clients with the following issues
- Drug and alcohol problems
- Children and adolescents
- Weight loss issues
- Smoking cessation
- Relationship issues
Although I don’t work with these kinds of issues I may be able to refer you to another therapist who specialises in these issues.
How to get in touch with me
For more information or to book a pre-therapy session use the contact form below or phone 0754 700 9116
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